Now what? What do we do after the Brexit – EU referendum?

There was a time when this country was called United Kingdom, that time ended today when we all woke up to a “Divided Kingdom” after the EU referendum held on yesterday. I must admit I had a completely different post scheduled for today but my mind cannot be anywhere else apart from the referendum and what the future holds for my family.  A couple of months ago we shared with your our views on How the Brexit would affect our family. Now, sadly it has become a reality.

I need to confess that I am honestly praying to get rid of any negative feelings towards the “leavers” because everyone has the right to decide, that’s what democracy is about. But I hate the idea that there was nothing I could do apart from expecting the outcome. I support democracy with all my heart, but when is based under fair grounds. When one side, from my point of view, is being misleading through lies then I don’t think that’s called democracy, I think it’s called fraud. Other thing that really upsets me is that the choice to leave was made thinking on one self’s best interest and their families. It wasn’t thought for the common good. Because if they have thought for a second the impact that could have on other citizens maybe the good heart people would have chosen something different. I’m not saying that to be good you needed to vote remain, don’t get me wrong, everyone can have their own opinions on the subject and I respect that but the consequences will be lived by everyone, “remainers” “leavers” and then us, the spectators of all this show.

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For those who said that the ones working and living here won’t be affected, let me tell you how this is going to affect us:

  • In two years will I need to apply for a Visa to be able to work and live here? or maybe sooner than that? Can you imagine the costs and hassle of that?
  • Will I have to apply for British Citizenship if I want to remain in this country? So will I need to start saving for the more than a thousand pounds per person that will cost that to my family of 4? (that if we get to stay here for another 3 years!)
  • Will I need to pay for NHS services?
  • How often will we be able to fly back to Spain to visit my family now that the fly tickets price will increase?

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Two years of negotiation will affect us, if not directly, indirectly. But let me tell you what we’re doing after the Brexit:

  • We will keep calm, taking one day at a time and trying our best to adapt to the new circumstances.
  • We won’t judge others (and please, forgive my imperfection)  on how they rule their country from this date onward.
  • We will prepare our plan B because we know that God helps those who help themselves so when/if the situation here becomes unsustainable we will move to wherever offers the opportunities that once this country offered to us.

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Britain has spoken and we’ve listened. Now it’s our turn to do what we do best. Be honest, work hard and have faith in a better world.

**Please, as this is my family blog I share my views freely on this subject in a respectful way so I expect the same for anyone who wishes to comment on this blogpost or any other of our social networks. I won’t tolerate or approve any comment that I find disrespectful to me or my family.

10 things we have learnt after living in UK for 3 years

We are getting very close to our 3rd year anniversary of this British Adventure, so even though we are not experts on the matter, we can still share with you a few things we have learnt so far:

#1 Manchester is London, UK is London, always.

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When you move to UK, it doesn’t matter if you told family and friends you’re going to live in Bristol, Cardiff, Edinburgh or Manchester, you are always relocating to London. So every time they ask you, they will always say “How’s it going in London? -No, I live in Manchester. -Yes, I heard “London” is a big city”… ALWAYS.

#2 Be polite, even if you don’t really mean it.

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So, you will say “Thank you”, when you get of the bus, even if the bus driver tried to kill you and didn’t even left you close to the bus stop. You will say “sorry” when you’re in the store and you were a “bit” too close when trying to overpass someone on the aisle. You won’t raise the voice if you get really mad at someone, you will just stare at them, thinking what you would do to them if you could, and then after a dramatic pause, turn around and go.

#3 Fish and chips and Beans on toast

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It’s what it is: fish AND chips, beans ON toast. There’s no magic flavours hidden behind these so well-known British cuisine. No surprises, crystal clear, you will get what it is: a piece of fried fish with French fries, or a can of beans pour out over a toast. Is it good? Is it not? we’ll leave it to your palate to decide.

#4 The absence of rain is GOOD weather

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If it’s not raining it’s good enough to do all sorts of outdoor activities, -please, advice to new comers, never wait until it gets sunny or you might end up enjoying yourself just 3-4 days of the year! trust us on this, no rain is good enough.

#5 along with that, you will never wear an umbrella with you

We found out about that on our first year, it seemed like magic, but we would be soaking wet and everyone around would be completely dry, how? we still don’t know! we thought maybe the weather was being a bit racist…haha, jokes apart, you seriously don’t need an umbrella, just a hoodie. It’s all you need in this crazy weather.

#6 There is more than one type of curry

Before, we only had heard about a few Indian restaurants in Barcelona and that was about it, never tried curry or any Indian food. Since we moved here we have learnt to prepare our own Korma curry and we can distinguish many other flavours. Now I know what ginger is for! haha

#7 Every Spanish food must have chorizo

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Apparently, according to Tesco, Asda or even La Tasca, paella must be cooked with chorizo, if you want “Spanish chicken” must have chorizo as well, AND be spicy! It’s one of those misconceptions that I don’t know who initiated here after probably travelling too many times to Majorca or Benidorm.

#8 You will always give a card on Christmas

It doesn’t matter if you personalize it or not. (we’ve been given empty cards, no name on them, at all, that we could actually use ourselves to give them to someone else) haha No, no, we would never do that! but yes, cards are an important part of British culture. You can say anything with a card. Say sorry, say I miss you, congratulations, to the big brother, to the auntie, to grandma, to your boyfriend, seriously…they cover all range of topics, and of course, Christmas is a perfect opportunity.

#9 You will get to know a British layer after layer

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They won’t show you all at once, you will only get to know them little by little, cause what it would seemed a cold person, might be the tenderest one, after delving deep into their hearts. And who you thought you would never get along with might become a true friend and help you in times of need.

#10 Generosity is a frequent attribute in these isles.

There are many ways to fund raise, many causes that you can be involved with, many people willing to help, they might stop you on the street, or you could start your own campaign, and people actually donate. Of course, everyone is different, but as a general thing, we have noticed this in more than one person we have come across.

The list could go on and on. We are still learning so many things. Immigration is one of the best ways to grow in all the sense of the word. Adapting to a new culture, new people, new places is hard, and now I know that unless you have experienced it for yourself, you’re not able to understand what it feels. You can find all sorts of barriers, language can be one, but won’t be the only one, but when you get to overcome them, and laugh at your own mistakes, you are able to see the forest with the right eyes, and you just forget of the tree.

Choosing the perfect CV

I recently contacted the National Careers Service, an organisation that helps you get the most of your jobseeking and find the right position for you. So for anyone who’s interested here I share some of the tips they gave me, keeping in mind always that we are talking about an English CV, different from the Spanish one.

CV formats

You can use different formats of CV to draw attention to your strengths, target a particular job and communicate your career aims (for example, change career, get a promotion).

Here are some CV formats you might like to think about using:

Targeted CV

You might use a targeted CV to:

  • aim for a specific type of job
  • change career
  • highlight skills you have but don’t use in your current job
  • emphasise your skills rather than your past jobs – if you have had a lot of jobs or if you’ve not worked for a while.

In a targeted CV, you list your skills and achievements in a separate section, not in the employment section. Targeted CVs stress the skills and experience that are directly relevant to a specific job. You can keep different versions of this type of CV if you’re applying for more than one type of job.

Performance CV

You might like to use a performance CV if:

  • you want to highlight your career progression
  • your last employer is well-known by the company you’re applying to
  • you want to stay in the same line of work.

A performance CV is the most popular type of CV and focuses attention on job titles and company names, starting with your most recent job. Under each job title you list your duties and achievements. You may want to split employment record details if you gained promotion within the same company.

Functional CV

You might consider using a functional CV if:

  • you’ve had a varied career
  • you want to change career
  • you’ve got gaps in your employment history
  • you want to emphasise skills you have but don’t use in your current job.

In a functional CV you promote your skills and achievements in four to six ‘functional headings’. These headings should be geared towards the skills you need for the job you want.

I think this is quite a useful information because as they told me you need to get the employer’s attention in just 20 or 30 seconds so you better have an outstanding CV that explains clearly why they should choose you.  Here you have more information about it CV formats

I still haven’t made up mind yet about which one would suit me the best but I’ll let you know if it works!!

Just another Sunday…

in our lives. What do you do on a Sunday with an almost 2-year old little one when you have 10 hours after going to church just for you and her to be at home?? Yep, that’s basically the big sort of “challenge” Julia and I face every week since Samuel started working at the restaurant. Since then, weekends are not the standard “Saturday-Sunday” anymore, now you call weekend to a “Tuesday-Wednesday, Monday and Thursday…” and so on, if you know what I mean..

So what are the things we like to do?

DSC_0260Take a nap! Yep, that’s a nice option, since I usually go to bed quite late on Saturdays waiting for Sam to get home from work. Sleeping is free, relaxing and it keeps you “busy”!

But we don’t take 10 hours nap,so after that, Julia loves to watch her favourite movie in her whole world, Gru (Despicable Me2) AKA, “Ghu” as she calls him. She loves the little minions! I actually do as well…;) She can watch that film twice in a row! That gives me at least a couple of hours to be on my own, and I cannot afford to miss those opportunities! While she’s entertained I usually read whatever falls into my hands, news, articles, scriptures,…but I like to watch some series as well, good thing I have internet in my mobile phone, I couldn’t compete against her over the laptop!

I also take sometime on my Family History…ok, to be honest, I started today, again… BUT, I want to commit myself to be more consistent in that though. In fact, Sam and I have talked about the idea of writing like a “Family Diary” sort of thing. We think it could be very helpful and interesting for ourselves and for future generations to read about our experiences, after all, you don’t need to be a celebrity to do such things!

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Anyway, the rest of the time Julia and I just hang out together, play around, read some Animal books, she loves them! and we basically enjoy the time mommy-daughter, because, if you really think about it these are precious moments that won’t come back again.