I recently watched a video that talked about the burnout syndrome and how it related to mums and dads who unknowingly were suffering this too. I’m not saying I’m suffering from that syndrome, also when I say “falling into depression” I don’t mean a clinically diagnosed depression per se. If you have symptoms that make you think you are depressed I would totally recommend seeking medical advice since it is an illness as any other.
My aim with this blog post is to share with you two things that I put into practice in my life that stopped me from feeling down and discouraged most of the time.
May was a challenging month for us. We did an amazing road trip from Manchester to Paris at the end of April so that we could see the open house of the LDS Paris Temple. We still need to tell you all about that experience, our pros and cons, our best tips…so hang in there, the post will come soon…
In the meantime, I needed to share this with all of you. When illnesses attack your home it seems everything else gets worse. This time not only the children were poorly, but also Sam and I had to be in the hospital for a few days, in different times each. In order to keep myself out of the stress, I was more stuck on my mobile phone than usual. I like reading the news and being on top of things. I also can get easily hooked to Facebook and everything else blogging related, so it was quite easy to loose track of time. As the days went by, I started to feel worse, not only physically tired but emotionally exhausted.
I couldn’t figure it out what I was doing wrong since for me, I was trying to look after my family to the best of my abilities. Sometimes I would cry, sometimes I had nightmares, I couldn’t rest well. I had a long chat with my husband. I also prayed a lot. After a while, I understood what I was doing wrong. What I was doing that was adding more pressure into my already hectic life.
All the news I would read were discouraging. Wars, paedophiles, rapes, kidnapping, slavery, and all the tragic things of this world. I didn’t pick them on purpose, they just came on my News app and I would read them. Concerns with politics, Brexit, jobs, the list was endless. As soon as I got up, I checked my phone and read the news. Before going to bed I checked them again. That was really destroying me. So, the first thing I did to stop me from falling into depression was NOT READING THE NEWS.
I know I cannot hide in a bubble and be completely unaware of this world, but the frequency and the quantity were mentally poisonous to me. You cannot go to sleep in peace if you just read that a child had been abducted and abused. You cannot wake up with a positive attitude if what you put into your mind first are thoughts of anger or uncertainty.
Do I still read the news? I do, but not every day, not every time. And I try to be wiser on my choice of what am I going to read.
The next thing I noticed was the amount of time spent on my mobile phone, especially when the children were with me. I could be checking Facebook while breastfeeding my baby boy. I could be Instagramming while listening to my 5-year-old. Time is a priceless gift given to us. What example am I giving to them if I’d rather look at a screen than on their little faces? So I needed to change that too. I decided I would put my phone away when I was with them. They are far more important to me than any social media.
As soon as I stopped reading the news and I put my phone aside while being with the family my days started to get brighter. I would be more open to the light, to the goodness of this world. There are probably so many other things we can do in our lives to stop us from feeling down. I encourage you all to find them out. What will work best for you and your family? For me, these two things have made a difference in my personal well-being. I hope that if you decide to put them into practice they will work for you too.
Please, if you feel so, tell us what has worked for you. We’d love to read your stories!