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Every cloud has a silver lining -even for a 5 year old little girl

Every cloud has a silver lining -even for a 5 year old little girl. We’ve been wanting to tell you this story for a while, but as time went by we didn’t seem to find the right moment. It is something we want to share with all of you though, because we hope that if your children or yourselves go through something similar you will be able to find some answers on this post.

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We need to give you a bit of background before getting into it. You know we already learnt our lesson and decided to accept our children as they are, and never push them to do something they don’t want only for our own parents’ pride. We understand that more important than what other people think is what they feel and what message they receive from us.

So since a very young age, around 2.5 years old, we initiated our little J on swimming lessons. I’ve always taken swimming lessons myself during my childhood and one of my goals  as a mum was to make sure that my children would be good independent swimmers. She loves the water and has always been keen on some water fun. Now, let me just brag a little bit here and say to you all that she has quite a good aptitude and when she is in the right mood does it quite well. She’s progressed in such a good pace that despite being only 5 years old she’s in Stage 3 already. OK, enough boosting myself!

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She was only 3 years old on this picture! 😀

Then she started complaining about the lessons…

Around 3 or 4 months ago she started complaining about the lessons. First she kind of drown herself a little bit and swallowed too much water. She got a bit scared but she was fine. Then, she started saying that her instructor yelled too much. We explained to her it was the only way everyone could hear him well in the pool but had nothing personal against her. Then, it was more things like “I don’t like it anymore! I don’t want to do it!” In the beginning she would get upset but with a little bit of encouragement went through the lessons. We thought that was going to last for a short period of time. We were so wrong. The situation got worse and worse.

She would cry every time she had a lesson. She would cry in the lesson. One day, she almost got paralysed and was trembling in a corner. We didn’t understand what was going on. We were there watching the class so we knew it didn’t have to do with the instructor himself. But our hearts would break every week seeing her suffer so much. We didn’t want her to quit though. In the beginning our approach was more “causal -effect”. -If you take swimming lessons, you will be able to swim on your own at yayu’s home in Barcelona! , or – If you are not going to do it, we will take you out of the course then” None of these things really worked. They only put more pressure on her.

One day, I saw her there, crying, looking up right at me

One day, I saw her there, crying, looking up right at me, like begging me to rescue her from that hell she felt she was on. I said a prayer in my mind cause I didn’t know what else to do. I should have probably done it before. I made up my mind and decided that changing group would be a possible solution. We told her and she seemed pleased with that idea. We chose a day where the swimming instructor was the same person she had when she was in the initial stage. So we knew she would remember her and maybe things would change for the better.

The following week she started on this new group. New instructor and new swimming friends. We thought that was going to be it but during her first lesson she cried all the way through. This time though I had told the teacher before and therefore made a few arrangements to help her be as comfortable as possible. When the lesson was over and we were in the changing rooms she and I had a little chat. On this occasion instead of focusing on the aspect that she had cried throughout the whole lesson I tried to focus on all the positives. You know what they say, every cloud has a silver lining, oh well, that was true, even for our 5 year old little girl. I felt inspired to just focus on how brave she was, that despite not feeling like it, and crying she was able to finish the lesson and follow every instruction her teacher gave to the group. She looked at me quite surprised, like she hadn’t thought about it that way.

When we were in the car she was telling Sam all the time “Daddy! today I’ve been so brave! even though I’ve cried I still finished the lesson! next time, I won’t cry that much!” I can tell you now, the change didn’t come instantly but I know that the path we took was definitely the right one. Last week it was her third week on a row where she kept asking about her swimming lessons and was more than eager to go! She says she loves it now! She’s making good friends with her new group and loves her Instructor. If we had continue using the “causal-effect” approach she would probably had quit swimming by now.

We chose to see the silver lining

We didn’t. We chose to see the silver lining. We chose to focus on what she was doing good already and encouraging her to keep it up, the rest would come. She’s not only taking swimming lessons now she is also doing taekwon-do and will be going to her very first tournament next week. Oh you’d have to see her with all the safe guards on and jumping and kicking around! She looks so adorable. The best part? She’s loving it! She’s overcoming her fears and growing in confidence little by little.

Wouldn’t we all feel much better if we focused on the silver lining? Life will make sure to bring you down in many diverse ways but if we look at our challenges, whether it be our own or our children’s, from the right angle, the right perspective, we will be able to overcome our biggest stumbling blocks. We will be able to help our children see things as they really are. We are so happy that our 5 year old got to open her eyes and realised that she was much stronger than she thought. She realised that she could climb the highest mountains and overcome her scariest fears. Now, we are ready for the next chapter in parenting, the school where every day you take a test for something that you have never studied before! 🙂

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Our special Frullato di Frutta recipe

Summer is just around the corner! Ok, not really, we still need to go through all the showers that Spring will bring with it but hey, the moment you see the sunshine coming up through your window all these summer fresh recipes come to your mind. So we thought what a better way to start your day than with a Frullato di Frutta?

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On this occasion we are collaborating with Inghams Lakes and Mountains for their “Ingham’s Foddie Finds” Campaign. We are going to show you this special recipe for Frullato di Frutta, a very yummy easy Italian milkshake. The kids love it! Everyone at home does actually and you’ll find out very soon why. Just keep reading… 😉

What do you need for our special frullato di frutta recipe?

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  • 2 bananas
  • 300gr strawberries
  • 400ml full fat milk (or skimmed milk)
  • ice
  • and our little secret ingredient: 2 spoons of Nutella
    (* the typical frullato di frutta will have either sugar, syrup or nothing at all since the fruit has its own sweetness. We just like making it extra yummy and Italian! what else more Italian than Nutella?! ) 😉

How do you prepare frullato di frutta?

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It’s actually quite simple to make. The riper the fruit the tastier it will be. We have chosen these ones cause we know they’re a safe option for our children’s palate but you can try any other fruit that you please. You cut it all in chunks. Add everything to the blender, except for the ice. We will add it last. Blend it for a couple of minutes and voila! or should we say “pronto!” 🙂

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The good thing about this recipe apart from how delicious it is, is that you can save some for later, freeze it using an ice tray or any other ice lollies recipients and your children will be able to enjoy them later on as a healthy ice cream for a warm afternoon.


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Find our recipe, along with many other creative and delicious ones from other bloggers on the Inghams Foodie Finds website. You can even download the cookbook if you want to!

Let us know how it went if you decide to give it a go! 🙂

The power in womanhood #MiercolesMudo #WordlessWednesday

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“A wise woman wishes to be no one’s enemy, a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim”               Maya Angelou

This is my entry to the Spanish Version of #WW (Wordless Wednesday) Linky called #MiércolesMudo created by Naturalmente Mama. Just as it says in the name, it’s a post with only a picture/s with a short caption, not too many words needed.

It’ s easy to participate, you only need to publish a picture/s without writing anything to explain it. (that’s where “wordless” comes from) Then don’t forget to join the linky below and leave a comment in every blog you decide to visit. To understand how “MiercolesMudo” was born and its rules, you can click here. (*if you click remember everything will be written in Spanish) 😉

Happy Wednesday !!

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The perfect veggie soup recipe for children

The perfect veggie soup for children is not a fairy tale, trust me. No more “I don’t like it” when they come to the table. Being a parent can be such a huge challenge sometimes and satisfying your children’s palate can seem harder than earning a Michelin star for a restaurant.

That is why we thought it’d be very helpful to all of you desperate parents -that means us, not too long ago too!- if we’d share this easy simple veggie soup recipe. We found it a long time ago on the BBC food website and we decided we would give it our own twist to satisfy the little ones.

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The main ingredient, and I would say the star of this recipe that helps soften the other flavours, is leeks. That is why I thought it would be a perfect entry for the #lovemyleeks campaign.

So without further ado,

What do you need for the perfect veggie soup recipe for children?

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  • 1-2 leeks (depending on the size)
  • a handful of broccoli (we use frozen ones for our own convenience)
  • spinach (same as broccoli, frozen too)
  • 600 ml of water
  • 1 chicken stock cube
  • 1 spoon of Philadelphia cheese (soft white cheese)
  • salt and pepper

How do you prepare it?

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  • You cut the leeks in big chunks, they don’t need to be small. Put the water in the pot and add the broccoli and chicken stock. Bring it to the boil. When it starts boiling add the spinach. Leave it to cook in low temperature for 5-10 more minutes, till you check all the vegetables are tender. Turn off the hob and leave it to cool down for 10 minutes. Then it’s ready to blend. Once it’s blended put it back in the pot and add the spoon of philadelphia. Stir it and season it with salt and pepper.  Now it’s ready to serve! Enjoy it with a piece of bread or whatever you wish. Sometimes we give it to our children along with fish fingers so the meal has all the nutrients they need.

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We have a fussy 5 year old eater and a 1 year old that could eat his sister’s meal so satisfying both at the same time is not easy. With this easy veggie soup recipe we have found the way to give them the veggies without them complaining. There you go, a win-win meal for everyone!