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Letter to myself: going back to work after maternity leave

Dear me,

You are about to finish your maternity leave, behind there’s that first month when you thought that 8 months would last forever, that when you would go back to work your baby would be old enough to leave him, cause you know he is already 8 months old!

Now you need to face the reality, your reality that it is over and you need to be away from him 3 days per week. I know everyone thinks 3 days is just fine and you will be alright but you think different. And because of this, I want you to remember a few things:

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Remember that you need to trust that you are not the only one that can look after him and make him happy. Daddy is alright too, you know.He might get confused with what socks belong to who, (E or J) but he knows how to make him laugh, how to calm him down, how to give him the cuddles that he needs when he needs them. He will be able to style J’s hair every morning, even if no plaits are made, at least a nice pony tail, and no fashion will be in danger since it’s just the uniform she needs to wear on!

You also need to remember that going back to work means you will have some “adult time” for yourself, and you don’t have to feel guilty for that. It is alright to step away sometimes to be able to see the bigger picture of life and appreciate the small things even more.

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Remember that you are not super mum! capable of doing everything, from laundries to homework, from meals to bedtime. If you feel too tired at some point, you can leave a few chores for the next day or even better, you can let somebody else gives you a hand.

Remember that as in everything in life, repetition and consistence marks the difference, so you will probably have a hard couple of first weeks juggling family time with your new schedule but it will get to settle down and you will be able to feel in balance again.

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Most of all, you have to remember that the option to choose is always there for you. If you think, at some point, you need to prioritise things on a different way is alright to say “no”. Whether it be to continue working, to become a stay at home mummy or even a full-time employee…The ball is always on your side of the field. Because you know what… “you are the captain of your soul”

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

From my most humble heart hope this letter will not only help me but help you as well. xx
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9 thoughts on “Letter to myself: going back to work after maternity leave

  1. rosamariabay says:

    me ha encantado el poema…y como analizas “la vuelta al trabajo”.
    Por supuesto q es un cambio…antes de salir de baja maternal E estaba dentro de ti…y ahora….es ese angelito q ocupa tu atencion compartida con J.
    Muy buenas ideas…el saber q siempre puede haber opciones hace q nos sintamos los dueños de nuestro destino!!! xulooo

    • elituesbay says:

      Aw thank you! I’m happy it just came right in time then. I’ve started this week and I’m trying to take things slowly.. 😉 all the best going back to work in November! xx

  2. Topfivemum says:

    What a beautiful poem that I’ve never come across. I so need to tell this to myself whenever I’m feeling vulnerable “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul”. So true!
    Going back to work after maternity leave is tough isn’t it? After having my first baby, I went back after 12 months full-time. But that’s because I was already pregnant with number 2 (that went down well!) I was only there for 6 months and it was very full on. I’m off again until April now (taking another year off) and I’m already worried about going back and how I’d manage it full time. But only recently I’ve been saying I actually have a choice. I can ask to go back part-time, I could look for something else closer to home or even delay going back. Like you say, I am the captain of my soul.

    Good luck when you return to work my lovely. And well done on recognising that you don’t have to sail your ship alone. #ablogginggoodtime

    • elituesbay says:

      Thank you so much for your comment! you’re completely right, knowing that we have a choice helps us feel much better. Wish all the best in the future and enjoy your time now until April! xx

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