Thou shall not covet thy neighbour’s blog

Although this is not family related it is blogging related but since the other day Sam told me my family blog seems like another child in our home we are talking about the same thing then… 😛

Blogger jealousy…have you ever look at somebody else’s blog and thought to yourself: mmm, how do they make it look so good?? I’m sure we’re talking about similar life experiences, in terms of parenting! but how come do they have thousands of followers and so many comments and mine is left in the corner like the kid that nobody wants to play with?

Oh well, I relaunched my blog 6 months ago when I had the urge to share with everyone our life changing experience of giving birth in the water and since then discovered my new passion for blogging. This new hobby has given me the opportunity to grow my social media skills, my photography skills and even my writing, not only in English but also in Spanish, as this is a multilingual family blog.

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Giving birth in the water to our second child 🙂

Along the way though I had my ups and downs and in the aim of learning more and being more engaged with the blogging community I read other parenting blogs too. It was hard not to fall in the “comparing myself to others wagon”. Something that you should never do if you want to keep growing. The way I see it is like the horse that needs to wear those blinders to keep himself focus and go straight, listening to its owner’s directions. If you look to the sides, you lose the point where you were heading to. So the first rule to not covet your neighbour’s blog is

Don’t look to the side

Now, I need to clarify this point. Don’t look to other bloggers to see what they’ve got and you don’t to make you feel bad. Look at others with the spirit of wanting to learn and apply to your own blog what you think will work for you. I, for example, have come to like a lot  some blogs, ones for the way they tell their stories, other ones for their aesthetic, other ones because of how engaging and friendly are online… they all teach me good lessons, and yes, at some point I was jealous but I got rid of those feelings and started to enjoy myself much more.

The second rule is linked to the first one…Don’t judge others

This story will help you understand it:

“There was a little girl that lived up in a mountain in a very small, old house. From there she could see another house up in the other hill. Its windows were always shining like gold. She wanted to live in that house. She thought it was beautiful, not like hers. One day she decided to get a bit closer. She walked up to the other house. When she got there, to her surprise, the house was abandoned, not well looked-after, it had nothing to do with what she expected to find…however, from that house she could see her own home, its windows were shining like gold.” (excerpt from General Conference Women Session)

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See? the grass grows always greener on the other side, or that’s what it looks like, right? Behind those perfect Instagram accounts, those lovely pictures of smiley children, behind that “perfect blog”, there’s an imperfect person with an imperfect life that we don’t know of.

The third and last rule,  stay true to yourself.

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I always remind this to myself. Hopefully it will help you too. It doesn’t matter what brands like, what your audience likes, you are not writing to “please” everyone. Your blog, as jokingly my husband said, it’s like another child, unique, especial, you want it to be its best to its own pace, to its own way. This is not a race to get followers, everyone is the winner if we become our very best. For me, blogging has more to do with sharing my family experiences in the aim to find people along the way that will be able to enjoy them, feel somehow related and grow with us. Don’t be like anybody else, just be you, and the companies that will want to work with you, or the readers that will engage with you is because they like you just the way you are.. (yes, I remembered Bruno Mars’ song as I wrote that bit.. LOL)

Blogger jealousy? Life jealousy? at the end it’s all the same, nothing good comes from “coveting” or “envying” others. Share with us your thoughts! We’re looking forward to reading them. 🙂

7 Comments

  1. Wednesday September 28th, 2016 / 10:38 AM

    It’s so easy to feel a pang of jealously when you see other people’s gorgeous blogs, the opportunities they have and the success that goes along with it. What we need to remember is that we are all at different stages, we can’t compare the start of our journey with someone else’s middle
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    • elituesbay
      Wednesday September 28th, 2016 / 10:54 AM

      you’re completely right on that Toni.. it is good to remember that 🙂 Thanks for your comment! x

  2. Wednesday September 28th, 2016 / 09:23 PM

    Super blogueraaaa!!!! tambien pienso como tu…lo mejor esta en lo auntentico.
    Esta vida no es perfecta, no existen personas perfectas, simplemente solo tu puedes hacerlo perfecto.
    Me ha encantado la historia de la niña y el ejemplo del caballo.
    otra vez: BIENNNN SUPER BLOGUIS!!! jijiji

  3. Thursday September 29th, 2016 / 03:48 PM

    This really resonated with me. I know that when I do look at other bloggers, I find myself comparing and it isn’t healthy, for me anyway. Sometimes it changes how I blog too. Now I don’t do it, and I’ve found by journey much more productive

  4. Friday September 30th, 2016 / 11:22 PM

    It’s so hard to stop comparing yourself to others… It can be so counterproductive sometimes.

    • elituesbay
      Monday October 3rd, 2016 / 07:15 AM

      that’s right Rachel 🙂

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