Life with 2 under 5’s!

This is the Step 2 and the last one on our series of Maternity Leave Posts. We’ve decided we’ll talk about how we are adapting ourselves to living with two children, which can be an incredible exhausting but rewarding experience! By the way, if you have more than two you are probably thinking “Oh yeah, wait until you get another one!” haha

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Sam and I have been talking about the main differences compared to when it was just the three of us, and maybe what advice we could give to those wanting to grow the family but in all honesty, we haven’t mastered it ourselves too much yet, so before giving any advice we’d rather stick to the facts, and when I say facts, I mean, OUR facts, not that everything of these applies to you..but, who knows! So here they are:

Number 1. Loving the sibling to death!

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This is when the Parent needs to keep watching ALL the time, cause it might be that Big Sister is “killing” the baby softly to kisses and hugs… and sooo much love can be dangerous.

Number 2. The Present competition

Why is life so unfair that baby E got a gift but J didn’t? What did she do to deserve such injustice! Luckily for us many friends and family thought of J when giving something to E, but when it didn’t happen like that..oh yeah, the DRAMA was on!

Number 3. Bath time or the time when mummy gets all wet and I get half cleaned

J will try to help with baby E before her bath is ready because obviously she is highly experienced on giving baths to dolls, little people and plastic ducks. So, what we usually do is let her rub some soap on him and wrap him in the towel at the end. She’s actually quite good on this.

Number 4. Priceless siblings conversations

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Apparently E tells J when they need to have some sweet or when they’re not sleepy and don’t need to go to bed, or when he’s scared of the dark, and many other things that just by “coincidence” will affect J in some way. By the way, the last conversation I heard was very cute actually: E was crying, I was in the bathroom so I couldn’t go there to comfort him, but there it was, his big sister giving him all the support he needed, telling him           -“E! Don’t worry, don’t need to cry! You’re not alone E! I’m here with you! don’t cry, everything will be ok!”- hahaha…you can tell she is quite dramatic.

Number 5. Multi-tasking x 2

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When it was just one, you learnt how to do 2-3 tasks at the same time. Now, you’ve got two, but you still have only 2 hands so this is how it works: if dad is home, he will be in charge of one of them and I will look after the other one, and then we’ll switch. If only one of us is home with the two of them…oh well.. “Let the Hunger Games begin!” haha, no, basically one of them will need to put up with the other one, and this is when your skills for learning to prioritize will increase immensely.

Number 6. House chores? What house chores?

I don’t know how other parents do it but while typing this post we have a huge pile of clothes waiting to be fold and put back in their places. Could I be doing that instead of writing this? Yes, Do I want to do it? No, I need a life as well! 😉

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We just try to keep doing all we can without getting too stressed. I like a lot being organised and I think it’s one of my assets but I have learnt that sometimes you gotta feel good with yourself even if you just did only one tiny task of all the other ones you had pending on your list, because again,… PRIORITIZE… Is E sleeping and J wants you to play with her? Clothes, bathroom, hoovering can wait!

Number 7. Blind Date

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That is what our marital relationship has become, into a blind date! not because we don’t know who we are meeting with, just because, in all sense of the word, we don’t see each other on a date at all! Time for just the two of us is hidden somewhere and it might give us a surprise in a near future but not for now. What we do instead? Every once in a while, we pause, look into each other eyes for a few seconds, smile, thank God for the person that we are sharing our lives with and keep going, one in charge of E, the other one of J, and life continues.

There are many more differences that we could list here, but we would get to the exact same conclusion, we wouldn’t change a bit. Life with two under 5’s can be demanding, exhausting and stressful but it is also a rewarding, learning, and memorable experience that you treasure every time you see them smile, grow and become the great people you know they are.

 

Hey! What’s your life like with two or more children? We’d love to hear and learn from your stories as well. 🙂

 

Mumzilla

8 Comments

  1. Tuesday May 3rd, 2016 / 12:36 PM

    I did a long post on life with two not very long ago, but to summarise; first four months were hellish. OK six. Now though, it’s getting better. They amuse each other which was my main aim. This morning I could hear them having a six thirty am chat on the monitor (mainly one sided, the baby doesn’t really say a lot…). Thanks for linking #chucklemums

    • elituesbay
      Tuesday May 3rd, 2016 / 01:21 PM

      Can’t wait for that to happen fran! Haha, so far only the old one laughs while the other grows in patience.. 😉 thanks for commenting! X

  2. Tuesday May 3rd, 2016 / 01:03 PM

    You have such a beautiful family and it sounds like you are coping amazingly well..my son just turned five and I am trying to figure out how different life would be with two instead of one, you have given me nice things to think about #chucklemums

    • elituesbay
      Tuesday May 3rd, 2016 / 01:23 PM

      Ohh thanks a lot! It is quite fun actually! X

  3. Tuesday May 3rd, 2016 / 10:57 PM

    Ah what a sweet post. I really want at least one more child so it’s good to hear about these things – my sister had 3 kids under 4 at one stage!! Madness. Very sweet how big sister wants to help though. #chucklemums

    • elituesbay
      Wednesday May 4th, 2016 / 12:54 AM

      Aww thank you! 🙂 I can imagine all the “sweet madness!” hehe x

  4. Wednesday May 4th, 2016 / 01:52 PM

    I struggle enough with one, my OH always says I couldn’t cope with 2! Think I’d like the chance to find out but hey ho…#chucklemums

    • elituesbay
      Wednesday May 4th, 2016 / 02:19 PM

      Haha I know! It is quite a big job with one, but you know what they say, everything gets easier with the second one…the oldest sibling looks after the other one and so on..haha X

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